Whether it be family, friend, romantic, or work related, relationships can shift, transform and grow to the degree that each individual is willing.
Sometimes one person is either more willing or simply at a place which allows them to be in a position of leadership in the relationship, and the other will choose either to grow or to fight, flight, or freeze.
Fight, flight, and freeze are all destructive to the relationship especially when it occurs repeatedly over time.
The ideal might be for each to let go of their pride and, with humility, to take turns leading and holding space for the other the choose growth (while remembering checking your stuff is part of being a leader and healthy individual in general).
Even if a loved one is dying (due to old age or something else), a choice point exists where sometimes death is the step to grow as a soul.
Death and dying somehow puts living into perspective. To grow in life, sometimes fully letting go of a relationship is best for the health of both individuals, and the transition can be smooth, blunt, or somewhere in between…very messy at times even.
Other times, relationship growth is simply a more clear transformation and might look like starting to say no or yes more, moving, finding a new job… simply doing things differently so that rewiring old patterns into new may occur.
Engaging the knowledge and trust that each individual is capable, creative, resourceful, and whole generates new ideas which, when implemented, lead to new outcomes that are life giving for each individual and the relationship as whole.
No matter how much people love each other, it takes courage and willingness to create change, but it is possible even in the heaviest of situations.
(I have seen pigs fly to create a win-win for all).
Wild blessings,
