How we are in relationship matters …
to ourselves, each other, plants, animals, what we eat, earth, divine source.
One way to become aware of yourself in relationship is to notice your heart when someone asks “How are you?”
Without judgment of any of it as right or wrong, what is your tendency from the options below, and does it differ depending on who you’re talking to?
Do you quickly say a one word answer such as fine, good or great and immediately ask “how are you?!” back. How does your heart feel there? Are you protecting and deflecting, scared of being seen, playing ping pong, or something else?
Do you spill your guts and tell all with no time or space to ask the other person how they are? Is overwhelming grief oozing out of your heart? Are you so relieved to be unloading?
Do you wear your heart on your sleeve, always asking the other person first and let them unload on you the whole time? Are you the rock, the padding, the well from which others drink?
Do you or others keep score feeling like it’s the other person’s turn to ask how you are? Are you always the one asking but never being asked? Do you feel like people get upset with you for not paying enough attention to them?
What else do you notice? Maybe it is none of the above, or all of the above depending on the day.
Whatever your tendency is, give yourself permission to work with Divine Source to create balance for well-being. No matter what the other person is doing or does. Keeping score only works if we’re using the same score card, and really that’s out of human pay grade; it’s the job of Divine Source to balance the “score” as each individual acts with heartfelt intention.